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This Week's Discussion is:
Is Fifty Shades Trilogy really degrading to women?
Please be aware these are ADULT Books. And we may talk about ADULT themes
Yip, these could go either way. So please no nasty comment they will be deleted. Having an opinion is one thing but bashing the author and just being horrible isn't acceptable on here.
Siobhán: So I decided to jump on the Fifty bandwagon and I am hooked. I find it interesting that a lot of the articles popping up focus on how it's degrading women! I am like hello have you even read the books?? They are not degrading in the slightest. Personally I found to be the very powerful, yeah Ana is very innocent but Christian tells her everything before their BDSM relationship starts. So she was the all facts and she is the one with ALL the power! If the sub in a Dom/Sub relationship says no it all stops. It's consensual, fun and sexy. If this story was reversed and it was Ana who was the Dom and Christian the Sub would these people think it's degrading men? The people who go see movies like "Magic Mike" is that degrading men? It's a bit of fun and may open people up to more than "Vanilla Sex" to enjoy some "Kinky Fuckery"
Destiny: I really loved the series - it wasn't offensive or degrading at all in my opinion. It was consensual between two adults and showed how fun sex can be. Even if you're already in a relationship, how can Christian and Ana's relationship NOT spice up your own or give you ideas on things to try. Many say her naivete was off-putting, but I for one, thought it was refreshing she wasn't so familiar with everything BDSM so we got to experience it right along with her - as well as watch the characters grow. I think women should at least give the books a chance - I guarantee they'll probably LOVE them! (And have all sorts of naughty, wicked ideas after)
Charlie: I personally don’t think its degrading to women. I guess I can understand why some might think it is but my views on it are that I think that it’s actually informative. It might not be the best written novel out there but there is going to be so many women out there who are shy or even ashamed of the things they feel and this book gives them a platform to come out of their shells wherever it be just sharing parts of the pages with their partners or just fantasising about it. Sex is something that used to be a taboo and you couldn’t openly talk about it but we now live in a society where its normal to sit down with a group of girlfriends and a glass of wine and talk about how big your boyfriends penis next to what happened on last night’s soaps which is why fifty works so well because essentially people expect the book to sort of be seen and not heard. Some might argue that fifty is degrading to men but I bet you anything you don’t hear a single one of them complaining after their partners have put it down for the night!"
Marianne: It seems that the popular opinion that the 50 Shades of Grey books, is that they are degrading to women, however, I whole heartedly disagree. If anything I find them to be very liberating. The whole BDSM scene is very taboo in general. All this book does is show women that its ok and normal to want to explore your sexuality as well as your "hard and soft limits". How is being in tune with your likes and dislikes a degrading thing??
It is safe to say at Totally Bookalicious we are all fans of the books and we don't think they are degrading women. We want to hear your thoughts on this matter. However, I will say this we do respect your opinions but don't judge a book until AFTER you have read it. These is more to these books than sex. It's the relationship between Christian and Ana that has most people hooked.
Let's hear it? Do you think Fifty Shades is degrading women?